What is the purpose of a wedding? Celebration! Getting to know our families and friends. A reason to dress up. But mostly, a fun night with family and close friends. I had wanted it to be a fusion between a Western and traditional Peranakan wedding but my parents are pretty untraditional (at least in this case) so decided to keep it simple with several important essence of our family tradition.
1. Country: Malaysia! We knew we wanted a wedding back home as soon as JQ proposed. When I think of my wedding, my ahmah is the first one who came to mind. I always wanted a wedding where I can serve tea to my grandparents. Even with only my ahmah left to witness this event, there is no way I am having my wedding without her or without my aunts, uncles and cousins. JQ's family is also excited to celebrate with us in Malaysia. It will be a great opportunity for JQ's family to meet my family, to experience Malaysian culture and simply to visit my home country.
2. A small wedding. Growing up, dad reminds me again and again not to over spend on wedding, invite only people who matters and not the entire village. That advice was repeated over and over that it got stuck in mind. Being away from M'sia for so long, I lost touch with several friends. But there are a handful who are dear to me, who influenced my life in some way, who I would like JQ to meet. With short trips back to M'sia, I also wanted this event to be like a mini-reunion, getting to know my friends again. I wanted to be able to tell JQ a story of every person who come to the wedding instead of 'I am not exactly sure who this person is'. Definitely a small, intimate wedding.
3. Reasonable. We dream of wedding up in the Rockies, somewhere in the middle of the Amazon forest. But realistically, we can't afford that and we won't have any guests! Our first choice was at hotel gardens but the few places we looked at had a minimum of 100 guests. While it would be easy to invite 100 people, the cost was outrageous, and comes in package where refusing some items do not make it cheaper. With both of us coming close to a change in career, we also have to prepare for moving costs and temporary unemployment in the near future.
4. Garden wedding. There is no way we are going to have our wedding in an indoor ballroom or function room. It has to be outdoor or partially outdoor (mosquitoes or not aside). Mom suggests the garden of my uncle's apartment. That would have been a perfect location - garden wedding by the pool! Unfortunately, we could not secure any florist to help us design the location (this is another story to tell some other time). Then we found the Tropical Spice Garden. I loved it when I went there almost 5 years ago and they have a lovely eco theme wedding package. So that is how we decided to have it at the TSG.
5. Food. This was a challenging subject for us. We wanted traditional Nyonya cuisine. My family are strict critics when it comes to Nyonya cuisine. Nothing tastes better than my gee kim's cooking. No way we are going to make gee kim cook for 80 people on my wedding day. My parents favored catered food over hotel food. So the hunt for caterers began until they found Bamboo Catering.
The most challenging on the major planning is communications with the different vendors in Penang. From our experience so far, Penang businesses rarely reply to emails, take months to respond to our enquiries and do no like to share their prices until you agree to their service. Lucky for us, my parents are retired and can help us hunt these people down. Yet, they still had a hard time getting quotes or finding a florist. With only one month left and the plans in place, we can only hope that these places deliver as they promised.